tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post7663560901096234823..comments2024-03-27T22:48:04.548-04:00Comments on JACK at RANDOM: Hi, My Name Is Josh and I Have A Dead Baby TooJosh Jacksonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07558455153152363458noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-11842368467980484032011-09-19T17:45:35.575-04:002011-09-19T17:45:35.575-04:00I find that I relate to people more on these blogs...I find that I relate to people more on these blogs than in my group, I guess because I can pick and choose the blogs I like. Regardless, it's nice to be face-to-face with other people who understand the pain, even if it's just for an hour. <br /><br />I think of you guys often.Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09327445812846183545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-54028814188583625192011-09-18T09:23:05.166-04:002011-09-18T09:23:05.166-04:00Thanks for this Josh. You've got me thinking.
...Thanks for this Josh. You've got me thinking.<br />I've kind of stopped seeing my psychologist. Just felt it wasn't going anywhere.<br />I've wondered about group support. SIDS and kids run monthly ones. My fear is that I'll be so absorbed in my own 'stuff' that I won't have anything left to give others...emotionally and I'd like to be able to do that. I guess that's what the facilitator is there for though hey?<br />I might just seek out the next meeting. Thanks for this thought provoking post.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08616143955384034381noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-19541247573504744792011-09-17T09:24:06.766-04:002011-09-17T09:24:06.766-04:00I was very moved this morning as I read your blog ...I was very moved this morning as I read your blog and all the responses. Each one unique, yet different, and all sharing that one most precious part of their life that still lives within their hearts.<br /><br />Thank you, Cathy in Missouri, for your last paragraph about Margot. I, too, am a stranger but still miss Margot.<br /><br />Micki in KansasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-32516416717665283812011-09-17T08:08:27.977-04:002011-09-17T08:08:27.977-04:00thank you for sharing your heart. your words are a...thank you for sharing your heart. your words are always so moving. I'm glad I found your blog.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00101380791416834049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-59153765254097627332011-09-17T07:27:49.552-04:002011-09-17T07:27:49.552-04:00Yours sounds like what support groups should be - ...Yours sounds like what support groups should be - and often are not. Everything seems to hinge on the people leading; they set the tone and it's up or down from there. <br /><br />I wish for a place like this around here. <br /><br />Fight Club is a great movie...<br /><br />Margot, you've got the kind of family who changes the world just by being who they are. You're like that, too. I only wish you were doing it here, instead of somewhere else. You are very definitely missed. Even strangers miss you.<br /><br />Cathy in MissouriGroveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867095709948739457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-45945392230351361292011-09-16T22:31:43.405-04:002011-09-16T22:31:43.405-04:00I went to a group gathering for Mother's Day, ...I went to a group gathering for Mother's Day, and it was so nice being around people that understood. But it's a three hour drive to where they have their meetings, and I can't do that during the week. There's nothing in my area. Maybe I should start one.Nika M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15716308480356654189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-15620227447339213582011-09-16T22:30:54.763-04:002011-09-16T22:30:54.763-04:00It takes so much courage to walk into a support gr...It takes so much courage to walk into a support group because it doesn't always make you feel better afterwards. But at the same token, it was my safe haven where I could freely talk about my pain and my loss knowing every single person in the room exactly knew what I was talking about. I looked forward to our monthly meeting that first year of my loss, even when I was going to therapy every week because as unfortunate as it was to belong to this group, I was grateful to have found one...<br />I'm so sorry for your loss...I hope your group can help you. This post was so accurately and beautifully written.Sherryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16336528651999291542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-37219286723710243482011-09-16T20:24:55.784-04:002011-09-16T20:24:55.784-04:00I'm behind on my blog reading (again) but just...I'm behind on my blog reading (again) but just read Brooke's post about her group experience, read your comment & came over here next. :) As I wrote to her, my dh & I went for a year & then facilitated for 10 before stepping down in December 2009. You capture the experience very well here. It's a real gift to be able to connect with other people in this way. I hope you continue to find it helpful.loribethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09272814565916935113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-3451676987879902762011-09-16T18:58:22.215-04:002011-09-16T18:58:22.215-04:00Leif and I would like to go back at some point but...Leif and I would like to go back at some point but right now with Clio and no one to watch her at night we can't. Maybe in the not too distant future...<br /><br />I was just talking to my therapist about the whole support group thing. We started seeing her partially because I knew we needed to talk to someone about what we were going through but we were reluctant to go to a group meeting for some reason. She (our therapist) kept telling us that she thought it would be good for us to meet people (not just online) who shared similar experiences by going to a group meeting. But almost all the ones we knew about were faith based and that was not for us.<br /><br />Well, finally we went and then started spending time with you and Kari. I've since stopped going to therapy as often as I used to. What I am trying to say is that I think we all just need safe places and safe people with whom to talk about our babies and our grief. It is a gift to find those safe places and those safe people.briannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03703767053224975771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-43193093154556801752011-09-16T18:06:17.146-04:002011-09-16T18:06:17.146-04:00I love my support group. It is just so nice ot be ...I love my support group. It is just so nice ot be around people that I can relate to. Different stories but same ending.Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11917822168137274298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-39785745400329133472011-09-16T17:36:49.391-04:002011-09-16T17:36:49.391-04:00I wish we had one.. the only one I could find was ...I wish we had one.. the only one I could find was faith based and right now that just isn't for me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-75621282985582522472011-09-16T16:41:30.606-04:002011-09-16T16:41:30.606-04:00Wow. Such a clear picture of reality. A reminder t...Wow. Such a clear picture of reality. A reminder that babies are still dying. It's heartbreaking but also so important for us all to find one another and collect our community; the pieces of our lives broken, the tears strewn, the unused baby paraphernalia. <br /><br />It's wrong on so many levels but at least we're talking. Thanks for sharing your experience. As always, it's a welcome invitation from BLM world to have a father sharing his heart.B. Wilson @ Windy {City} Wilsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17479551028143520755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-36231757213447052222011-09-16T14:50:59.266-04:002011-09-16T14:50:59.266-04:00Wow, you explained it so well. I feel an immediate...Wow, you explained it so well. I feel an immediate connection with people when I know their baby has died. We might have nothing else in common at all, but I feel a connection to them that I don't feel with people I have known for years.Danahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12860497122946287983noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-25851496466792915312011-09-16T11:49:29.193-04:002011-09-16T11:49:29.193-04:00We've always been too afraid to go to a group,...We've always been too afraid to go to a group, and now I think it's too late.<br />I have made attempts to meet with local babyloss parents, but I think I scared them both away. I'm not sure why.<br />Your group sounds like it should, maybe we should've tried harder to go to one.Jeanettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11423818333034603238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-88083596417160296362011-09-16T07:09:39.611-04:002011-09-16T07:09:39.611-04:00Our support group is still very important to us, a...Our support group is still very important to us, although we're not there every month now.<br /><br />My DH is now a trained befriender and I will do the training in November. We wanted to give something back, because you're right - they are my people and their laughter and their tears are my laughter and my tears.Fireflyforeverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15290560217994184778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-31334288128639733472011-09-16T02:48:31.645-04:002011-09-16T02:48:31.645-04:00I can not imagine your life. I think about your fa...I can not imagine your life. I think about your family everyday. My heart aches for you and I am so thankful you share so much of your journey. Your story has given me a stronger, better life purpose and perspective. Thank You.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-51426445287415480742011-09-16T01:46:15.274-04:002011-09-16T01:46:15.274-04:00Oh No...Oh Yes...I don't know. My first suppor...Oh No...Oh Yes...I don't know. My first support group meeting is in a couple of weeks. I am simultaneously anticipatory and apprehensive. Do we care about others stories or just that we are not alone?Renelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08490888250385942221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-80699760785646149532011-09-16T00:24:56.025-04:002011-09-16T00:24:56.025-04:00Very well said, as always, Josh. Thank you.Very well said, as always, Josh. Thank you.Abbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12532462818650237904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-6586364689873652632011-09-15T23:22:03.703-04:002011-09-15T23:22:03.703-04:00We went to our first and only support group meetin...We went to our first and only support group meeting at seven weeks out. It was exactly as you described. Eerily so. I'm not entirely sure why we never went back, but I guess I found so much support *here* that I didn't bother with the fact to face stuff. Reading this, I think maybe I should have. I think going back after all this time could possibly be a good thing now. To maybe offer some glimmer of SOMETHING to the newbies out there. <br />I know one thing though - it has been almost three years exactly since we went to that meeting and while I don't really remember the names or the faces of the people there on that night, I do remember the names of many of the babies and their stories. They've stayed with me, all this time.<br />xoHope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-45139379783424616522011-09-15T22:53:52.231-04:002011-09-15T22:53:52.231-04:00Wow. I love you guys. So grateful to know you.Wow. I love you guys. So grateful to know you.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10018677079517048332noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-37638397049409543572011-09-15T20:52:18.899-04:002011-09-15T20:52:18.899-04:00Josh, thank you for continuing to share your journ...Josh, thank you for continuing to share your journey. Very moving...Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10446605654747592907noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-24067988732026790242011-09-15T19:39:34.340-04:002011-09-15T19:39:34.340-04:00Beautifully written.Beautifully written.The Goods Designhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06787915088242473950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6504259906351329000.post-62991019975995783102011-09-15T19:01:00.301-04:002011-09-15T19:01:00.301-04:00It sounds to me like it should, my first time at o...It sounds to me like it should, my first time at our local grief support meeting was unfortunately nothing like that.michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07960223886511130664noreply@blogger.com